Powerful hypnotic look into reactive abuse Fair Play movie

First and foremost, I thought I was putting the Undetected Narcissist to bed and moving on to a new project. I was very mistaken until I watched the movie, “Fair Play,” on Netflix and questioned Chloe Domont’s intentions in writing and directing this film. I realized that millions of people across the globe, including:

Powerful hypnotic look into reactive abuse Fair Play movie

More names could be added, but I hope I get my point across. Everyone was brilliantly gaslighted to believe her narrative, from a victim’s standpoint. Being a mental health professional, I had to speak up because even Chole does not fully grasp or understand herself. I want to help her and all of you. Why? First, everyone needs to learn this stuff before someone gets hurt. We do not teach or educate society about REACTIVE ABUSE. On January 10, 2023, I created a blog post and podcast about this subject. I am a survivor of reactive abuse, and the character Luke is as well in the movie Fair Play. Therefore, let me briefly explain reactive abuse.

Powerful hypnotic look into reactive abuse Fair Play movie
Powerful hypnotic look into reactive abuse Fair Play movie

The first article I read to discover Domont’s intentions in creating and writing this film came from Entertainment Weekly, an article by Maureen Lee Lenker, Published on October 7, 2023. I found it to be very disturbing because of what I know about reactive abuse, gaslighting, toxic behaviors, and some narcissistic traits.

“The violence of Luke’s actions propel Emily to the film’s disturbing conclusion, where she holds Luke at knifepoint and forces him to say out loud that he is nothing. “The way that Emily holds him accountable is in a brutal, ugly way,” Domont notes. “But Luke is the first one to reclaim that power through physical force and physical abuse that opens a whole can of ugliness. Emily tries to use her words in that final scene to confront him, but this man refuses to be held accountable on any single level. If she wants to hold him accountable, she’s going to have to use the same physical force that he used against her.”

Ultimately, the scene isn’t about revenge, Domont points out. “It’s about getting this man to own up to his inferiority because his inability to face that causes so much destruction in the film for both her and himself,” she says. “This isn’t really a film about female empowerment. This is a film about male fragility. The whole film builds up to that last line where she forces him to finally acknowledge that he’s nothing.”

Powerful hypnotic look into reactive abuse Fair Play movie

Since I am a survivor of reactive abuse, I want to share what I took away from watching the movie Fair Play. I want to teach you to see and hear what I gathered from this movie. Then, I dare you to watch this movie again from a more realistic perspective after the gaslighting and rose-colored tinted glasses have been removed from your eyes.

First, the movie title speaks volumes when you can grasp the concept of reactive abuse. Falling in love, being engaged, or in a healthy relationship should never be considered a game or tit-for-tat. That was my first red flag. The writer/director is telling a story from her perspective, and Emily is not the authentic/genuine victim in this story. Luke is the authentic and genuine victim. He was considered the good guy for a big part of the movie. His character was supportive and proud of her success; he did not hide his love for her when Emily met his family; he did not want to hide it from his employer or coworkers because she meant everything to him.

Powerful hypnotic look into reactive abuse Fair Play movie

He said, “I fucking love you so much. I wish we could tell the whole world,” before going to work with Emily. The next red flag was how Emily left the engagement ring on the table before leaving for work. By doing this, she hides her authentic self and masks herself to be someone else – a happily engaged woman in love. Personally, I thought people were done masking because millions of people are coming out of the closet and embracing their authentic selves.

Luke also knows that Emily enjoys taking risks. Danger turns her on, and she loves having risky sex with him. The use of Emily’s words, actions, and behaviors also speaks volumes as I unpack this movie. It is crystal clear throughout the movie that Emily loves hot, passionate, rough, and dirty sex. She likes to fuck instead of making love. Emily rarely enjoys making love because she seems to have an avoidant attachment style, and getting too close to someone is scary for her. Therefore, she will self-sabotage the relationship. I also realize that Luke is not a good match when it comes to sex and Emily’s stress response cycle. Let me unpack this for everyone because you might learn much about yourself and your partner.

Powerful hypnotic look into reactive abuse Fair Play movie

Emily craves sex when she is stressed out; it helps her complete the stress cycle. So, for Emily, sex and stress are her “let’s get nasty” start switch button. Luke is the exact opposite. He shuts down, and for him to have sex with Emily, there must be an emotional connection first. Then, if he proceeds, it must be slow, romantic, sweet, sensual, and uplifting. He cannot do the wham-bam. Thank you, ma’am. Since neither Luke nor Emily knows about their start and stop-buttons, this can cause extreme sexual tension.

We saw this fact several times in the movie. Also, content can change a person’s start or stop buttons. Context means having a baby, money worries, changing your career, becoming unemployed, having a death in the family, experiencing or witnessing a trauma, or having a family crisis.

Powerful hypnotic look into reactive abuse Fair Play movie

Plus, since Emily has experienced this several times in the past with previous lovers, she will most likely anticipate being rejected and, therefore, automatically go into the reactive abuse tactics. I highly recommend reading or listening to the book “Come As You Are.” You will learn a great deal about yourself and your partner. Let’s move on.

So, let’s be honest here, Emily repeatedly said throughout the movie, “Fuck me hard!” and Luke wanted to make love. This does not work for Luke when Emily uses her body, looks, and sex appeal as a weapon against him to get him to submit. Yet when her game of manipulation no longer works on Luke, the tension within the relationship escalates out of control.

Powerful hypnotic look into reactive abuse Fair Play movie

Next, Emily and Luke’s company is run by a man who treats his employees like disposable pawns. Their only purpose in that company is to make Mr. Campbell millions and billions of dollars. Then Emily overhears that Luke is going to make PM. When Emily shared the news with Luke, he was excited. Yet, again, Luke said, “If I had to choose between you or the promotion, I would choose you.”

We all know Emily did not feel the same way towards Luke because, to her, it was fair play. Not choosing love over your career or money. What mattered more to Emily was status, money, power, and her position within the company. Luke was all about love, commitment, being together openly in public, and being proud to be engaged to Emily.

Powerful hypnotic look into reactive abuse Fair Play movie

Throughout the movie, we see how Campbell does not respect Emily’s boundaries and willingly keeps pushing them constantly. Why? Because he knows Emily does not know how to set healthy boundaries with others. She could do what I do at night: I put my phone on Do Not Disturb and only accept emergency calls from certain family members or friends. Yet, when Luke tells her that she doesn’t have to answer the phone at 2:00 am, Emily responds, “I have to,” when she does not.

Now I know how the movie was spun to make Luke appear jealous. I felt Luke was 100% sincere in his responses to Emily getting the PM position. Luke said, “I am so happy for you.” Yet, I could see that Emily was mournful and full of sorrow. Why? I knew Emily would sabotage the relationship with Luke in that scene at the bar. Based on her relationship patterns and history, she anticipated Luke’s future reactions and responses. Remember, abusers respond in the same exact fashion and pattern. When you expect someone to react a certain way and manner, The abuser will play the manipulation game to set them up by baiting, plotting, and undermining.

Powerful hypnotic look into reactive abuse Fair Play movie

As we move on, Emily’s attire changes once she is promoted. The next day at work, she is wearing an open blouse; the buttons reveal her cleavage, and the blouse is sheer and seductive in nature. The image above shows her blouse buttoned down to her braw line. Look at her face. It appears rather smug and superior over her male counterparts. She appears to be the only female in the office, so attire means everything. Especially since her male counterparts talk trash about women, including Emily, behind her back, as the movie progresses, you can see how Emily puts on the power play status with the men. I could clearly see Emily’s personality changing before my eyes, and Luke was concerned. This was a red flag.

Emily also wants to help Luke get promoted, but Luke does not want to ruin someone’s life to get promoted. He has seen how Campbell treats his employees. Luke has compassion and cares about other people’s feelings. He is not intentionally out to sabotage another person for benefit or gain in his career or life. Luke has integrity. The approach Emily plotted lacked integrity because she was willing to undermine her coworkers to promote Luke. It’s a nasty power play people overlooked. This was another relationship red flag.

Powerful hypnotic look into reactive abuse Fair Play movie

We all quickly learn how Campbell thinks and feels about Luke. He was a charity case. Campbell already has deep pockets of greed and power. In my professional and personal opinion, Campbell is a sad, cold, pathetic man. Luke is clearly a better man than Campbell because he strives to be better by working on himself. He wants to reclaim his life by changing his perception and narrative of what is true for him. Yet, Emily comes home drunk, and she calls the motivational speaker, Robert Bynes, an asshole. His honesty offends her distorted values and beliefs about reclaiming one’s identity. Emily thinks it’s a waste of time and money, but self-improvement and empowerment are never wasted when one applies the teaching to one’s daily life. Expressing that self-improvement wastes time and money is another red flag.

Powerful hypnotic look into reactive abuse Fair Play movie

Now, things get dark here, which I must unpack. Emily tries to seduce Luke. He says no, it’s late. Emily does not take no for an answer and says, “Well, then I guess I’ll just have to lie here and fuck myself.” This scene clearly shows how sex is used as a power play and a weapon because Luke is not in the mood and is tired. He kissed her forehead and said, “Okay, good night.” I would do the same thing. The real issue is Luke wants an emotional connection with Emily because he needs that emotional connection, which has been lacking in their relationship since she got promoted. Currently, he is seeking answers to improve himself in his career. Therefore, sex is not checking the right boxes for him.

Let’s reverse the rolls here. It is common to see men in movies sexually abusing and assaulting women. For example, many women have had their man come home sloppy drunk, and they try to force themselves upon you sexually, and the woman says no. How many women will eventually give in because they are afraid of being verbally abused, given the silent treatment the next day, or gaslighted into believing they are a frigid, cold, on the rag… I could go on, but this is exactly the path Luke finds himself walking down each time he says no to Emily’s sloppy, drunk sexual advances. And each time Luke says no to her, the drama, tension, anger, and sexual frustration between them grow stronger and stronger. If they do not resolve this sexual tension and repair the relationship civilly and healthily, things will not end well.

Powerful hypnotic look into reactive abuse Fair Play movie

Since Luke is not giving in to Emily’s sexual advances, you can see how she begins to flirt with Campbell. This is very unprofessional and childish. You can see her laughing and touching Campbell as they talk behind clear glass-plated walls. In my opinion, she is asking for trouble. You don’t see the men behaving in such a manner with Campbell. What Emily is really doing is love-bombing Campbell, and Luke sees it. It disturbs him because Emily is changing in a risky and offensive manner to their engagement/relationship. Another red flag.

Why Emily’s seductive behavior at work is so damaging is it can change Luke’s secure attachment style to anxious, and that is exactly what Emily wants. Then, she has a legitimate reason to justify why Luke always appears jealous, insecure, and anxious. I unpacked a similar series on Netflix called Love is Blind, Season Three. The relationship between Cole and Zanab. At the end of this movie, you will see how Luke went from a secure attachment to an avoidant after being in a relationship with Emily.

Powerful hypnotic look into reactive abuse Fair Play movie

It becomes apparent that Emily now sees Luke as an object, just her analysis, instead of her fiancee. It is heartbreaking to watch her transformation. I can tell that Luke is offended but keeps his mouth shut.

Luke and Emily knew they were breaking company policy, but she wanted to tell them before someone found out. Even Emily’s mom said, “Work can wait; stop hiding. It’s not every day you get engaged.” Later in the film, Emily has the perfect opportunity to come clean about their engagement and relationship. A coworker observed Emily and Luke speaking to one another, and he said to Emily, “I see how you look at him. You want to fuck him. I won’t tell a soul.” This was the perfect opportunity to come clean. Instead, Emily replies, “I don’t shit where I eat.” Wow! If I heard my fiancee say those words, I would pack my bags and leave. That comment is beyond offensive and insulting, and it means she is above Luke, as if he is the “hired help.”

Powerful hypnotic look into reactive abuse Fair Play movie

That evening, when Emily comes home, she tries to seduce Luke for the second time. He is not interested. Most people would not be interested. Because Luke is not interested, Emily implies that Luke is bitter-sweet, like the dessert she brought home for him. She notices that Luke has decided to enroll in the self-improvement course and is disappointed. She questions his decision. It is clear to me that she is trying to start a fight.

Fight pattern: First, by not taking her sexual advances. Second, accuse him of being bittersweet and make him feel bad about wanting to improve himself at work to get promoted. It is natural for someone to fight back, and Luke does. He brings up how Emily has issues asserting herself. It was a good tip. He also talks about how appearance is everything. This was positive feedback, not negative. Yet, Emily takes it as an insult. Luke spoke the truth, and Emily hated hearing it. You can see how Luke is distant because he no longer recognizes the woman he fell in love with. Again, red flag.

Powerful hypnotic look into reactive abuse Fair Play movie

As the movie continues, there are several more red flags. The biggest red flag for me was when Campbell called Emily a dumb fucking bitch. I am shocked that she stood there and took his “direct, in-your-face reactive abuse.” Campbell could clearly see that she froze (your nervous system’s threat response). She slipped from her rational cortex brain into survival mode. So, he continued to abuse her and said, “Yeah, you heard that right. You want me to say it again?” This time, he shouted in her face, “Dumb fucking bitch! How’s that? Alright. Good?” Campbell said it loud enough for everyone to hear.

Emily looks down in shame and humiliation. She sucks it up and says nothing. That’s a learned behavior from experiencing verbal reactive abuse used as a weapon of control, dominance, fear, shame-parenting tactics, punishment, and power. It could have been from a teacher, parent, family member, narcissistic best friend, or someone she admired who wounded her so deeply. So, she did what most people do who admire this asshole.

Sorry for swearing. This whole movie is full of swear words. My grandmother had to buy another soap bar to clean my mouth. And yes, I must use humor here because talking about abuse, narcissism, and domestic violence is such an unpleasant subject matter.

Powerful hypnotic look into reactive abuse Fair Play movie

Moving on, we see Emily panics because she wants to prove her worth. She clearly struggles with self-esteem issues, standing up for herself, and self-respect. I would have walked away and packed up my stuff. Some might be passive-aggressive and make him lose another 20 to 30 million. Then are some that would snap and say, “Yes, I am a dumb fucking bitch because I work for an insecure, short, weak, pathetic little man. Without your wealth, you would be nothing. Such a sad, lonely little man.” If someone said those words to Campbell’s face, it would feel so darn good. Your career would be over, but at least you spoke the truth. I would give you a high five!

Instead, she beats herself up because she feels worthless inside. We see Luke walk in as he tries to comfort her because he wants her to stop beating herself up. When Emily gets home late, Luke is reading. Emily is so frustrated that she pushes herself again onto Luke, demanding they fuck. Again, this is reactive abuse. Emily said, “We need to fuck.” The point is she needs to fuck to feel alive and important. Luke doesn’t. He implies that he is not in the mood. It is clear that Emily does not take no for an answer, and this time, it becomes sexual assault. Emily says, “We need to fuck the shit out of each other right now.”

Powerful hypnotic look into reactive abuse Fair Play movie

Again, Luke is not in the mood. He wants to make love, to have this deep emotional connection with Emily. Yet Emily wants it hard, fast, rough, and dirty. Luke tries to get Emily to slow down by softly kissing her, but her mood and negative attitude ruin the moment when she says, “Are you going to fuck the shit out of me? I want you to fuck me so hard. I need you to fuck the shit out of me.” Remember roll reversal. Many women give in to avoid getting physically hurt or raped. This is sexual assault, everyone.

Now, let’s go even deeper here. What is considered sexual assault? “Some forms of sexual assault include attempted rape; fondling or unwanted sexual touching; forcing a victim to perform sexual acts, such as oral sex. Approximately eight out of 10 sexual assaults are committed by someone known to the victim, such as in the case of intimate partner sexual violence.

Before we move on, I need to address direct and indirect sexual assault in my opinion. Direct sexual assault is physical contact. Indirect sexual assault is the verbal and psychological mental head games. Emily is masterful with her choice of let’s get down and dirty verbal comments, but Luke still does not take the bait. I am proud of you, Luke! Let’s move on.

As you can see in the movie, Luke doesn’t want to fuck, and he struggles with getting an erection. He is confused and upset. He is hurting inside. Luke must realize their engagement and intimate relationship is falling apart. Then Campbell calls her at 12:00 am, right after they tried to have sex. Luke wants her to set healthy boundaries with Campbell, but she is now his puppet. This is another red flag.

Powerful hypnotic look into reactive abuse Fair Play movie

The celebration at the stripper club was a major red flag. I loved the song by Just a Gent. In fact, I love all his music, yet the conversation the men had about women was extremely offensive. Emily plays cool while the men continue to bash women, and eventually, she becomes one of the boys. When she calls the stripper over and says, “Let’s get some fucking ass,” I mean, where did the professional class go?

Again, Emily comes home sloppy drunk and tells Luke a repulsive story about how a brother was set up to have blind sex with his sister. The story was disturbing enough, but laughing and finding it funny is just sick and twisted, in my opinion. Emily has zero compassion for the boy, sister, and entire family. Nobody should be laughing at someone’s trauma story, but Emily does. This shocks and repulses Luke. She was never like this at the beginning of their relationship. If she were, he would not have asked her to marry him. Again, it is self-sabotage, yet Emily cannot see it. She projects all her issues upon Luke by using abuse-reactive gaslight tactics.

Now, Luke feels completely disconnected from their relationship. He might feel like he mistakenly asked her to get married. When Luke doesn’t find the disgusting story of incest funny, Emily says, “Christ, have a fucking sense of humor.” Then she says, “Jesus, you so stiff.”

Powerful hypnotic look into reactive abuse Fair Play movie

He is in shock, and he froze. He is traumatized by Emily’s inability to feel any emotions of compassion, forgiveness, horror, tears, or heartache for the brother and sister when the bag is removed from the brother’s head. Having zero emotions is dangerous because Emily’s mask slipped off in front of Luke’s eyes. Now he knows who she is, what she is, and how she views the world, people, love, marriage, her career…everything has been distorted to trap Luke into this abusive cat-and-mouse relationship.

Emily knows she has now exposed her true nature, so she needs to save face. A toxic person or someone who appears to be a narcissist will use the secret weapon of love bombing, and for Emily, it’s sex. So again, she pushes herself on him. Luke says, “Don’t, Emily.” Everyone can see the sexual assault once one can notice the patterns. Emily responds, “I want it. Are you going to make me beg?” Again, Luke says, “Don’t, Emily, stop.” Then she pervertly says, “I promise to help your career if you eat my pussy.” Then she laughs. Luke says you are drunk and walks away. Because Emily feels rejected again, she calls Luke pathetic, triggering a reaction out of Luke.

Now Luke snaps. This is their first major fight. He says, “Does that make you feel good? Powerful?” He is disgusted by how she lowered herself and her self-respect to “fit in” because she has become one of the boys. Clearly, Emily doesn’t like to hear the truth.

I want to be very transparent here. When I first saw and heard the character Emily say to Luke, “I promise to help your career if you eat my pussy”, I was surprised and thought she was really drunk. Most people would be more forgiving of a woman making that type of insulting comment, but I believe if the roles were reversed and a man said, “I promise to help your career if you suck my cock”, that would have gotten a stronger reaction from its audience. People would be less forgiving and not let it slide. People would be upset and dislike the dude.

However, most people let it slide when a woman makes the same statement. Why? When is society going to learn more about sexual assault and reactive abuse tactics? And still, Emily, throughout the movie, was supposed to be the victim, when in fact, she was a constant emotional, psychological, and sexual abuser towards Luke, and the majority of the viewers just let it slide because it was a woman and not a man being abusive. That is why the writer of this movie was able to fool so many people. The world is not used to seeing women portrayed in such a manner.

I must jump ahead because I could spend hours unpacking this psychological domestic violence movie. I want to talk about Luke’s confession to the man he considered God, but in reality, he is truly the Devil. There is even one part in the movie where Emily confesses, “It’s just a game!” and Luke replies, “You play it really well.”

Powerful hypnotic look into reactive abuse Fair Play movie

As we all know, Luke spoke his truth to the Devil, and Campbell’s lack of compassion, sympathy, and zero emotions shattered Luke’s reality. Everything he ever wanted in life was shattered in that moment. How and why? What he believed and thought he wanted in life no longer aligned with who he was as a person. He put his faith, loyalty, hopes, and dreams into the wrong person and company. He realized Campbell would never feed him positive praise, mentor, or inspire him to greatness. Campbell was already full of himself and would gladly sacrifice any of his employees by placing them on the chopping block.

Then Campbell introduces Luke to his new replacement, Derek. The guy who brought his last company within a quarter, not a year, 90 million. To write this scene was truly a magical display of how some people are born into darkness and are created out of darkness. I know I have said in the past that we humans create narcissistic people, but I must stand corrected. Some people are just plain born dark and evil, like Campbell. I am not religious, but I have recently learned about this truth.

Let’s jump ahead some more. I hope everyone will watch this movie again. The song playing, “I Got a Heart Full of Love” is about Luke. Luke must listen to soulful music to feel some emotional connection. He is drowning inside and doesn’t like how he feels when disconnected from everything around him. Therefore, the song play is not about Emily because Luke does have a heart, and Emily’s heart is stone cold by now.

Powerful hypnotic look into reactive abuse Fair Play movie

In this scene, Luke’s dreams, career, future with Emily, and reality have all been shattered into tiny pieces. He idolized the wrong man. Everything he loved, valued, and cherished was all a delusion and fantasy. Then you hear the song, “What to Do”. It’s the perfect song because Luke doesn’t know what to do. That is when he wants his notes from his self-empowerment book, but Emily considers his notes as trash. Luke explodes because those notes are important to him.

Again, there is more reactive abuse because Emily and Luke are two completely different people. One is connected to love, compassion, kindness, understanding, reasoning, and cooperation. The other is disconnected and uses force to control, manipulate, play games with other emotions, and knows how to dominate another. They are now polar opposites.

When they fight, you can clearly see the spite, anger, and rage within Emily. Luke is so confused because her mask is 100% off; still, he cannot logically reason with Emily. We even hear Emily say, “Who are you?” Luke is finally in his place of power and truly sees that he is just a doormat to Emily’s abuse tactics.

Powerful hypnotic look into reactive abuse Fair Play movie

That is when Luke responds, “Who the fuck are you, Emily. You’re the one catering to an old man every night. Do you think he would ask Paul or Tova to talk to him until 2:00 am in the morning? NO! He asked you because he knows you can’t say no, making you weak. Every time you answer, you let him walk all over you.”

Emily hates the truth and uses more reactive abuse by saying, “The only man I let walk all over me is you!” This was her own projection of what she was doing to Luke and, of course, a lie. I could go on, but I hope during their fight and display of reactive abuse, you can now clearly see who the abuser and victim are. Especially when Emily puts her fingers by her head and says, “Are you serious?” Implying that Luke is now crazy. The only crazy one in this scene is Emily. Then Luke goes into even more reactive abuse mode, speaking his truth and finally breaking something on the floor out of frustration.

Luke walks out of the apartment because he cannot handle any more abuse. He is trying to find some sense of control over this uncontrollable traumatizing, baiting, projecting, and undermining situation. And, of course, Emily does what she always does. She grabs some alcohol to numb her emotions. We have seen her behave similarly throughout the movie since she was promoted. Another red flag is you ask me.

Powerful hypnotic look into reactive abuse Fair Play movie

Now, I must cut to the chase because this movie is a game – the final sex scene. Emily has sexually assaulted Luke four or five times, and each time, her mannerisms and behavior get worse. She has been begging Luke to fuck her hard and to fuck the shit out of her.

When Luke finally snapped, he gave her exactly what she had asked for weeks. Some people will disagree with me for speaking this truth, but we all saw and heard it. When they finally had sex, it was angry makeup sex. Here is my logic. Both of them were sexually frustrated and needed to release the stress cycle. When Luke was giving it to Emily, hard and rough as she demanded several times, I did not once see or hear Emily tell Luke that he was hurting her; I did not see her struggling to stop him, suggest changing sexual positions, or screaming for help because he was physically hurting her.

There were no genuine tears of pain or trying to force Luke off of her. Emily could have even placed her hand or arm under the cheek pressed against the sink. She had options to prevent herself from later getting a bruise on her cheek. She also had many options to fight back, and she didn’t because she knew the patterns of when a man snaps. Therefore, she let him have his way with her – angry makeup sex, not rape. I know, shock value. Just hear me out.

In my opinion, Emily sexually assaulted Luke when he denied Emily sexual gratification. I understand that no means no. Couples are known to have passionate, angry makeup sex, and at times, people can get physically hurt. Some people hurt their back, leg cramps, rug burns, bump into furniture, or fall off the bed. I do not believe Luke intentionally wanted or desired to rape Emily. He loved her.

Yet, Luke snapped and could not access his logical, reasoning cortex brain. He was psychologically abused to the point that he only reacted and responded in a manner that went against his true nature, and that was to have angry makeup sex with Emily. It was apparent to me that he never wanted to fuck Emily or even hurt her. He just wanted to make sweet love to her, but Emily doesn’t like sweet lovemaking. She wants hard, rough, risk-taking, fuck my brains out sex. He was pushed over the edge, but people seem to misread the situation because most people judge men as being sexual predators.

Therefore, Emily was 100% aware of what she did and how hard she pushed Luke over the edge. Plus, if the writer of this movie had a repeat history of this form of sexual assault from men, then she knows the patterns. Why does she keep repeating those patterns over and over again? Why not get professional help? Because it has now become a learned behavior to get what you want, even if it means sabotaging the relationship.

What upset me the most was when Emily got what she wanted, then she played the normal end game all toxic and narcissistic people play. Now, she must discard Luke. It is like recycle and repeat when it comes to intimate relationships. Then, Emily has the nerve to turn around and play the victim. This is wrong, but she cannot comprehend her destructive patterns and methods of sabotaging all her intimate relationships because Emily believes self-help or therapy is a joke, when, in fact, it can help her. Without self-awareness and an outside perspective, Emily will never find true love and happiness in the dating world.

Powerful hypnotic look into reactive abuse Fair Play movie

I felt so bad for Luke and Emily. Anyone can disagree with me. I am just telling you what I see and know coming from a domestic violence standpoint. Yes, Luke was wrong for having angry makeup sex with Emily because she got hurt. He should have walked away. All he wanted was to kiss her sweetly and calm Emily down. Things escalated and got way out of control. That is why I say it was a couple having angry makeup sex and not rape.

For example, in my younger days, I had wild sex and got rug burns on my back. That was not abuse or rape. It was mutual sexual gratification with a little pain. I knew the skin on my back was becoming raw. Did I tell my man to stop having sex with me? Sometimes yes, and sometimes no. When I did say let’s stop, I suggested we try another position. But why did I sometimes say No?

Here is why – because the sex felt good! Did I accuse my man of raping me after we had sex or make him be accountable for hurting me? Would I force him to tell me that he is nothing and means nothing because he will not accept responsibility for hurting me? Or did I desire to grab a knife and make him bleed like I was bleeding? The answer is NO! I smile and say it was worth it. The sex was amazing! Then I ask my man to grab a band-aid and put some antibiotic cream on my boo-boo.

Lastly, when Luke faces the reality that he now has identity erosion, he knows he has to leave New York. He must do some serious self-care and create a new life in California. Being with Emily made him lose his composure and sense of self when he snapped and had angry sex with her in the bathroom. He is mournful, and sad, but is solution-oriented. Narcissistic people are not solution-oriented unless it is self-serving.

He must leave Emily, or she will continue to destroy him. Therefore, in the final scene, he tries to be nice about it – like we both played the villain and victim to each other (mutual abuse). Yet, Emily is not satisfied. A narcissistic person is never satisfied because NOBODY can leave them. Emily MUST reject him first to save face and feel powerful. Her ego, fear of rejection, abandonment, and not being good enough stares her in the face.

She can’t psychologically handle it, so she becomes obsessed with destroying Luke’s fragile ego and sense of self even more. She wants to hold him accountable for his actions, but what about her actions over the past several weeks? Will she look at herself in the mirror and apologize for her behavior, mind games, and abuse towards Luke? Of course not. She is the victim, in her mind. Toxic people never accept responsibility for their actions, and playing the blame game is always the best way to save face.

As you all know, the ending was morally and ethically wrong. Nobody deserves to be treated that way, especially Luke. I hope my clarification makes sense. We have all done things we are not proud of. That is why we need to be open and honest about sex, generational trauma, shame and family secrets, relationships, love, and much, much more. Chloe is right. We do need to talk. I feel sorry for all those men that Emily and Chloe have dated in the past; psychological abuse can take a person months or years to recover fully. Some people never really recover and become temporarily narcissistic themselves.

Powerful hypnotic look into reactive abuse Fair Play movie

Thank you for reading or listening to the powerful hypnotic look into reactive abuse Fair Play movie. I truly hope that sharing my perspective will change millions or billions of people’s perspectives about the REAL meaning behind the Fair Play movie.

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