There are many subject matters that are dear to my heart and soul. As this year 2022 passes, I have been contemplating humanity and our future generations. Like in the past, I receive messages. For several weeks, I have been listening, gathering guidance and direction in presenting this critical topic. There are so many different layers that I must unpack here today to bring about clarity, wisdom, compassion, and a shift in one’s perspective regarding humanity and our future generations. Everything I have written and spoken about over the past several months comes to this truth. The truth is humanity and our future generations must heal. Some people ask themselves and others, “Why are we here?” My answer is, “We are caretakers of Mother Earth and one another.” Nations are healed because people are healed. That is why I advocate for sharing this wisdom with humanity when I discussed the map of consciousness, attachment styles, communicating with difficult people, why mental health awareness matters, why everyone should be trauma-informed, and trauma-bonding relationships. Therefore, I would like to create a road map today on how we can heal one another, nations, and Mother Earth.
I have discussed how everyone is born connected in several blog posts and podcasts. We are here to connect with everyone and everything. This includes plants, animals, Earth’s cycles, water, wind, moon, and sun. Now some of you might think this concept is crazy. Let me explain. Some people are so connected to the Earth’s cycles that they know when it will rain. They know when a wind storm is approaching. They use the moon cycles and mother nature’s seasons to help them catch fish, lobster, or crab. You know when to plant different vegetables based on the seasons and when to expect a drought or flood. Some people are even called animal whispers because they know how to connect and communicate with animals. This is all about connection and oneness. Nasa discovered in the 1960s that the Earth is a living organism. It was the first time they could see the Earth from outer space so that they could perceive it as an integrated whole. There is a pattern, structure, and organization with all living systems. But what about humans? We cannot put a person into a box or franchise a quick fix for broken humans. We still have a lot to learn about humans, and for starters, we must first open our hearts and minds if we are going to make a dent in healing nations and each other.
There is a unique six-part series on Netflix called, Our Universe. Scientists have discovered this connection between our planet, animals, the moon, the universe, the seasons, and the sun. There is this unspoken yet constant web of connection. There is a structure and relationship. The planet Earth is a living, self-organized system. All plants, animals, and species have this woven connection and system with one another. For example, brown bears in Alaska have this relationship with the sun, which supports the cycle of hibernation and when to wake up. There is a relationship between the moon cycles and how it impacts the tides to provide a substantial food source for the brown bears. Even the salmon has a specific woven pattern, process, and relationship that supports life and the brown bears. The problem humanity is facing is we are still trying to wrap our heads around the complexities of being human, how to have emotional intelligence for each other, finding better ways to treat one another, and how to better support someone when they have become disconnected. Animals have it easy because they strive to stay connected with one another and with the structure/relationship with this universal life force. Some animals are emotionally intelligent, like cats, dogs, elephants, horses, dolphins, chimpanzees, birds, and a few other animals. However, they do experience grief, sadness, joy, excitement, and love. When they form a bond, it can last a lifetime.
Humans are more complex, but animals, I feel, are more forgiving and can heal faster from traumas when they meet the right human beings. Humans can hold a grudge, constantly finding faults, being stuck in a negative mindset, and feeling like a victim year after year. Emotionally intelligent animals want to be loved and accepted. They do not want to be judged or shamed day after day. They want to live instead of exist. They can shake it off, literally. For example, when a dog experiences anxiety, fear, or stressors, the body creates a chemical reaction in the dog’s body. Adrenaline and cortisol are released into the bloodstream, putting the fight or flight response into action. When the stressful situation is over, the dog will often have a whole body shake, as if shaking off the negative emotions—humans need to learn this healthy habit. Most humans stuff these negative emotions down. We can stew over them and lose sleep. We can cling to these negative emotions because we want revenge or want to punish the person that hurt us. That is why I say animals are much more forgiving and can let the little or big negative emotions go.
Sometimes we get disconnected and lose sight of what is essential: staying connected. When you are disconnected, you are stuck in the lower vibrational frequencies, thought patterns, and behaviors. You can seek an outside source of comfort when struggling mentally and emotionally. Some people will gravitate to food, drugs, alcohol, sex, gambling, and other behaviors that eventually become a habit because the core issue was never addressed but stuffed down or ignored. When you are disconnected, you can find yourself struggling with depression, anxiety, anger, shame, guilt, fear, withdrawal from the world or society, or stuck in blame. A person can find themselves in a state of just surviving day to day instead of living. Making that shift in consciousness can be challenging when you are surrounded by negative people wanting to keep you stuck in the same old unhealthy comfortable routines and patterns of addiction, gossip, victimization, people pleasing, and revenge. Then some negative people feed off your suffering. We can live in a community that does not support our ability to thrive, grow, and break free of old ways of thinking or cultural patterns. Humanity is evolving, and everyone must come together if we are going to survive these dark and scary times.
When we are connected, we become conscious of each other and Mother Earth. We are aware of how we treat animals, and plants, the foods we eat, the foods we grow, our water resources, the environment, the quality of the air we breathe, our ability to recycle and reuse, and much more. We become self-aware of another person’s feelings, thoughts, perspectives, and dreams. We raise each other up instead of dragging each other down. We think before we speak, and we choose our words wisely. There is no separation, only connection. At times, we need to stop and listen to one another. The most powerful way to heal someone is to listen. Put your thoughts and judgments on the shelf, and listen. This is when people start to heal because they will feel heard in that precious moment. We cannot be a healer if we refuse to step outside our own emotions or rigid viewpoints. We need to view another person’s emotions, perspective, and life entirely from the other person’s perspective. We might be able to relate, or you might not, but listening with an open heart, mind, and soul is vital. It is the key to connected listening and communication.
There is such beauty in the world around us. Beauty is the difference in skin color, a person’s smile, the light in someone’s eyes, and the sound of someone’s laughter. We can see beauty in the changes in Mother Earths’ seasons, gazing at a painting that moves you, a song that speaks to you, or a melody that moves your spirit into dance or freedom of expression. This beauty surrounds us all. You have to open your eyes or shift your perspective. Therefore, when life gives you lemons, learn to make lemonade. Replace the old saying, “Why is this happening to me?” with “What is this situation trying to teach me?” This can be a game changer because you are stepping out of the victimization mindset into the learning and growing opportunity handed to you. When you realize this fork in the road, you shift your perspective from disempowered to empowered. For example, I had to do the same thing when the dust settled, and I was still angry about the psychological abuse I experienced. I picked myself up and decided to write our story because I could not find one book on narcissism that was written as a memoir of psychological abuse. The book, The Undetected Narcissist, is designed to shift everyone’s perspective, even the narcissist. It was written from a place of compassion, wisdom, love, and concern for all humanity. That is why I started these blog posts and my podcast. To take a series of disempowered life events and empower the masses. I have been tested, and now I am showing humanity what I have learned and studied so history will not repeat itself.
Here is the problem we are facing today. Humans are compartmentalizing other human beings. Putting them in boxes, categories, and ranked by status and class. This has worked in the past to support humans struggling to find work or support a family, but it is wrong when used against other human beings. It isn’t good because it can create a mindset of separation and superiority for those born into wealth or power. Then some individuals have learned how to manipulate or control other humans to benefit themselves. Keeping various people in poverty, uneducated, sick, and used as machines for slave labor. History has told us about multiple religions and how humans were forced to pick a religious side. Pick the wrong side, and you get killed. Pick the right side and always watch your back because you have no choice. It was either life or death. Back then, most people were stuck in the black-and-white mindset. That is our current problem today. When a person is stuck in split thinking, it creates separation and disconnection. You cannot agree to disagree. There is no gray area between compromise and acceptance of another person’s beliefs, values, morals, or preferences in life. We cannot find common ground, negotiate, or come together for the greater good of the whole. That is why we have wars. Yet, there is a bigger war going on that many people are clueless about—the war on humanity. Foods are grown with toxins and chemicals. Water is becoming more expensive than gasoline. You might think you are drinking Smart Water, but if you did a pH test on the water bottle, you would discover the water has an acid pH of 4.5. Water purification and pH are essential for the body and brain (water bottle pH chart). Plus, some fantastic human beings created free energy resources and were killed. So they could not share their unique gifts with the world. Wars are started to invade other countries to steal their fossil fuels. We are told lies about other human beings, so when someone does encounter another human being that has been smeared based on their religion, political views, sexual preferences, status, education, morals, or values, that person will not listen to them—creating a more prominent wall of separation and disconnection. And some might think the FDA is our friend, but we all know that Big Pharma can buy even them. Not all people are the underclass, underprivileged, stupid, ignorant, destructive, or evil. We have heard stories of people coming from nothing and transforming their lives as well as the lives of others. At times, I feel that those underclass or underprivileged human beings can see clearly the problems we are facing today. How is because they are content and detached from the drama, smear campaigns, and lies and do not desire massive amounts of material objects to be happy. Money does not buy happiness. Money can provide enjoyment, but happiness comes from within.
So how can we fix this dilemma that humanity and future generations are now realizing?
First is to listen and I mean really listen by taking to heart this message from spirit. Next, is to educate yourself and take the action steps necessary to make a positive difference in this world. Even spreading the word and sharing this message is a form of taking action.
Second is to understand that we cannot support each other coming from a place of isolation or disconnection. We are dealing with systemic problems, which means that these problems are interconnected and interdependent. For example, we all know that we must stabilize the world population and reduce poverty worldwide. Yet, when I say poverty, I am not referring to forcing a community into this thriving and happy living in what some people would consider poverty. On the contrary, these people are satisfied with having fewer material things as long as their basic needs are met within their community.
Thirdly, we must ultimately view these problems from a different facet instead of a single crisis. The problem is primarily based on a crisis of perception, our ways of thinking, and our values. We must release the outdated worldview and shift our perception of a reality that can and will deal with our overpopulated, globally interconnected world. Currently, some political leaders recognize that we need a profound shift in perception and thinking if we are to survive. The flip side is that most of our corporate leaders, administrators, and professors at large universities are still stuck in the past, clinging to outdated worldviews, perceptions, ways of thinking, and values. They need help to see how different problems are interrelated and how some solutions will impact and affect future generations. The truth is Mother nature will win in the end. We are guests here, and we have not been treating her with the respect and decency she deserves. This explains the major shift in weather patterns, heat waves, ice storms, and other global changes. We are now being forced to adapt to Mother nature’s attempts to deal with the damage humans have done to this planet.
Fourth, we need that sense of community. I remember neighborhood block parties and neighborhood watch meetings; everyone knew their neighbors and the people within their community. People did not lock their front door or their cars. Now, this is rare in many countries. We have moved away from sustainable communities, allowing a social and culturally harmonious communities. With a community, you can find that your needs are being met, and aspirations can take root and flourish. Currently, if the shit hit the fan, we would all be forced into a community – harmonious or a prison camp. There would be extreme chaos, lack of trust, every man/woman out for themselves, violence, hoarding, and even death. I know that it can be challenging to create a stronger sense of community when trust has been broken by law enforcement and government officials. Crime rates have increased, hate groups have been formed to create more isolation, and having to travel for employment – all take a toll on developing a harmonious community.
Fifth, we need a paradigm shift in our perception, thinking, and holistic worldview. We must see the world as an integrated whole rather than a dissociated collection of moving parts. Some might call this a deep ecological awareness. We all need to be in harmony with the natural world. This leads to a more harmonious life. Our future generations need this because of the concern for protecting the planet for our comfort. We are part of this world, and in destroying our environment, we also destroy our own life. We are experiencing global changes in storms, flash flooding, fires, droughts, and temperature changes, to name just a few. Ultimately, deep ecological awareness can be considered spiritual or religious awareness. It is the concept that the human spirit is understood as the mode of consciousness. This means an individual will feel a sense of belonging and connection with the cosmos as a whole instead of separately. After all, you are a spirit having a human experience, not the other way around.
Six, we need new values and ethics. There is a difference between thinking and values. Both of these have shifted from self-assertion to integration. Self-assertive and integrative are essential aspects of all living systems. Neither is bad or good. What would be considered good or healthy is that sense of balance. What is bad or unhealthy is when there is an imbalance. For example, rigid thinking and being stuck in outdated values that no longer support humanity or the planet is bad. Another is neglecting others and staying stuck in black-and-white thinking patterns and values. I’ll give you more examples. If you are self-aware, you are open to trusting and listening to your intuition or trusting your gut. You are nonlinear and holistic, seeking partnership, quality, cooperation, and conservation. When someone is stuck in self-assertive ways of thinking and values, they tend to be more rational, analyze, and linear, into quantity, domination, competition, and expansion of everything (bigger house, more toys, designer clothing, etc.). When someone comes from a place of domination, they tend to be excessively self-assertive and seek power over another person. We see this behavior and ways of thinking primarily in men. The world has seen it in political figures, within the military, corporate structures, and hierarchy. Men generally are considered upper level and women on the lower levels. That is why we need more women in a position of power to create that balance we need. Yet, there is another power—the power of influencing another person – for good or bad. There can be a paradigm shift when this influencer comes from a partnership instead of a domination approach. Again, people should begin to question a person’s ways of thinking, values, and ethics before placing them in a position of power, which leads me to my next topic.
Seven, we need to change how we parent and care for children. Since a person is not born narcissistic, psychopathic, or a sociopath, it is our job to correct the problem…if we can. If you were raised by a neglectful, absent, or authoritarian parent, I highly recommend taking parent classes. Why? A person can become narcissistic, a psychopath, or a sociopath when these types of parenting styles raise them. I recommend everyone educate themselves on the latest parenting and communication skills with children. Why? Generations have changed. You might have grown up in a home where you were spanked regularly. When you grow up, you might spank your child, but there are better ways of disciplining a child. Your parents might have been verbally abusive. If so, you might find yourself on automatic pilot, verbally abusing your child and regretting it later. Education is a gift, and raising a child is a gift when you have all the right tools in your toolbox. I will say that parenting is not easy, but it is rewarding.
Eight, we need to become trauma-informed. Too many people quickly judge when they notice a person is struggling. Immediately, that person is labeled as crazy, off their rocker, broken, damaged goods, drama queen, overly sensitive, or unstable. Regardless if this is true when trying to put the puzzle together about this person, being trauma-informed is critical in terms of proper care and mental health management. An excellent example of what I mean is the podcast I did about “When we stop being human.” That experience was upsetting, and I could tell the police officer dispatch worker was not trauma-informed, educated about mental health, and lacked proper communication tools. I saw a man in trauma and dealing with mental health issues. The dispatcher saw him as a nuisance to society, should be in a mental hospital, and unstable. The truth was he experienced major trauma by having his legs removed from the knee down—two different people with two different perspectives.
Nine, we need to educate everyone about why mental health awareness matters. Everyone is struggling with something. That is why we should all be kind to one another. A person’s struggles can be temporary or triggered by specific life experiences. Either way, compassion comes from being educated and informed, not ignorant. I know in high school, this subject is finally being taught. Children learn about bullying, personality disorders, ADHD, autism, and social anxiety. My concern is the limited amount of information. For example, last semester, my son took human relations. During the last week of class, they finally talked about narcissism. My son was excited about it. The problem is he was only being taught about the most common type of narcissist, the big ego type. There are seven different types that the class never addressed or covered. Here is a link to discover the seven different types. This is important to me because I wrote about how a child psychologist said that he thought my son’s father was narcissistic. When I Googled it, he did not meet the profile. Therefore, I dismissed it. He should have said there are seven types of narcissistic individuals, and I should look up the keywords that describe their actions and behaviors. If he had done that, I would have changed my whole life, and it could have prevented me from developing complex PTSD.
I need to address another reason why everyone must be educated and informed about mental health. In the past, I have discussed the development of the prefrontal lobe – the cortex brain. If you look at the image above in this blog post, you will see how the brain of a psychopath is different from a normal brain. The cortex does not fully develop until 25 years of age. When someone is stuck in the survivor’s brain for most of their life, the cortex brain will not develop properly. Your cortex brain is vital because it supports a person in having empathy, being able to control yourself, values, literacy, creativity, hope, and rational/intuitive thinking. When you live stuck in your survival brain, you will not be able to relate to other human beings. You are polar opposites. That is why I want to heal, educate and inform children and young adults before the frontal lobe is fully developed. These children and young adults are our future generations. Also, psychopaths and non-psychopaths were watched closely, and the results showed that while the pupils of non-psychopaths eyes dilated when viewing something scary, the psychopaths’ pupils did not. That is why having empathy and guilt is important. A psychopath does not have either because of the trauma damage to their frontal lobe cortex. We can prevent this, which is why this topic is essential for humanity and our future generations.
Ten, we need to teach people how to communicate with one another. Communication is key. How we communicated with each other twenty or thirty years ago is different today. Now we talk about self-awareness, mindfulness, vulnerability, cooperation, and kindness. We know that bullying is a form of verbal and emotional abuse. I would love to see schools teach people about communication and to teach people how to repeat back what they heard. For example, one day, I suggested to my son that he walk on the treadmill because it is good for his health, and his physical therapist will ask him tomorrow if he has been walking on the treadmill at home. My son knew he had not been walking on the treadmill lately and shut down in the car. For the whole car ride, he was silent. When I asked him to repeat what I said, he replied, “you called me fat!” Again, it all is about perception, and I did not call him fat. Another example is my daughter. One day I noticed that she was bloated. I asked if she was okay and said I noticed she appeared bloated. I wondered if she ate something that did not agree with her body. Later, I found out that she felt I was body shaming her, saying she was fat. Again, I was concerned, like most parents would be. She usually is not bloated. That is why communication is critical, especially with kids and young adults. How they perceive and interrupt what we say to them does matter.
Eleven, we need to educate everyone about attachment styles and how to communicate with someone based on their attachment style. In two previous blog posts and podcasts, I address attachment styles, communication, and how a person’s attachment style can change. When someone has these skills and abilities, they can become more self-aware in communicating with different people without being dismissive, irritated, or discarding another human being.
Twelve, we need to learn how to decode and detect someone who is narcissistic, has a mental health issue, or has a personality disorder. When you can interpret and see these types of people, you are less likely to become victimized. You can respond instead of reacting. You will know when someone is projecting their issues upon you or trying to make you question your reality like gaslighting. You might not know that gaslighting is Merriam-Webster’s word of the year. This is a good thing, but I have seen people use the term for everything and use it out of context. Here is an excellent example of why everyone must have this skill. I have been working with one gentleman who was a people pleaser. He transports children and does supervised visitation for the state. At a pickup location, the mother wanted him to give the child’s father, who is in jail, a piece of paper. His knee-jerk reaction was to please people. He took the piece of paper. Then he asked her what it was about. She was hesitant, of course, but said it was a court summons. She is taking him to the court requesting full custody of their child. Again, the child was there to hear this interaction. He still took the paper but knew exactly who and what this woman was the more he talked to her. She was narcissistic; as you should know by now, they love to ruin the holidays. As he walked off with their son, she said, “Out of all the case workers, you are my favorite.” He was thinking of me and what I had taught him the whole time. He knew she was love-bombing him and wanted to ruin the visitation between the father and child. When she went back inside the house, he called his boss and told him about her request. His boss immediately said, “Hell no! That is not your job.” Then he called me on his drive to the jail. I was so proud of him, and he thanked me because he knew he would have been blindsided, lost his job, or got written up. He thought of the child, who was being placed in the middle. Therefore, I was happy that she did ruin that child’s Christmas visit with his dad or the father’s scheduled visitation.
Thirteen, future laws must change to include psychological abuse. Most people think that only women suffer from psychological abuse, but men can be victims too. Here is the before and after image of what narcissistic psychological abuse looks like. Here is a picture of Cole from Season three of the Netflix series Love is Blind. You can see that he has gained weight and must be drinking to drown out his sorrows; he is confused, ashamed, humiliated, and wants to hide from the world. The cast members from the show hate him and accuse him of being the abuser because this is what Zanab wants people to think and believe. She created a perfect smear campaign. What he thought was love destroyed him. This is what identity erosion looks like. Get a good look. We as a society must change the laws to stop and prevent this form of abuse. I know that only physical abuse currently holds more weight within our legal system, but psychological and emotional abuse is more destructive. Let me explain. You can break your arm, and that bone will heal. But the mental and emotional pain and suffering you experience from someone breaking your arm can last you a lifetime. You cannot see the scars inside of your heart, mind, and soul, but it is there. If those scars are not addressed or healed, they will taint how a person views relationships, their ability to communicate and relate to others, their career, and their future. This is no joke. Humanity must learn to stop making fun of other people’s traumatic experiences, pain, or suffering. That is why I can no longer watch America’s funniest home videos. Most of those videos show people doing stupid things and getting seriously hurt. We need to put our phones and cameras down and start having more compassion and kindness for one another. We were all doing things that seemed like a good idea at the time but backfired. This is how we learn. They are not mistakes, just opportunities to learn and grow. Not a chance to shame or kick someone when they are already stuck in a ditch. I know it can be challenging to measure the severity of one’s emotional or psychological abuse because each person is uniquely different based on their life experiences, but laws must change. How humanity treats each other must change if we are to evolve and survive as a species.
Fourteen, this brings me to my next topic, cancel culture. I was at a restaurant, and we were all talking about how each generation looks back at another generation and shakes their heads. The biggest thing we all agreed upon was that everyone who grew up in that messed up generation was doing the best they could with the information they had acquired at that time. That is why we cannot parent our children the same way our parents parented us. There is a twenty to a thirty-year generational gap, and each generation brings healthier techniques for raising a child. In my time and within my community, you could spank a child, beat your wife, and a teacher could hit you or publicly humiliate you in front of your peers. I am so thankful these acceptable standards have changed. Unfortunately, in some countries, these forms of abuse might still exist. The point is you can read a book and gain insight. Applying what you learned and mastering it is essential for any radical generational change.
Throughout the generations, people’s heads have been filled with thoughts of separation regarding love vs. hate, religious dogma, racism, society, cultural views, sexism, education, family values, and unrealistic work ethics or conditions. Women were not granted credit cards given in their name until 1974. The whole equal right amendment spanned from 1923 to 1996. Still, to this day, we are taking our rights away. The point is every generation does have a higher shift in perspective. There was slavery, and now we strive for freedom and equality. We should not cancel out the cultural wisdom teachings from the past. If we do, history will repeat itself. There are pros and cons to this cancel culture. The pros of cancel culture are that destructive or heartless people are getting exposed, they are losing their credibility, and they can lose their platform or status within society. People are being exposed for their crimes, like rapists, sexual predators, sex trafficking, big pharma, and evil politicians. The problem with cancel culture is that it provides an excuse for individuals to cyberbully others and invade their privacy. Where do we draw the line? If someone finds satisfaction in cyberbullying another person’s privacy, I would think twice. It is a form of abuse, disrespect, and boundaries, and the law can be broken. Is it worth the jail time? It is also not your job unless you are being professionally paid to do the work following all guidelines, protocols, and laws. Plus, cancel culture can be ineffective. How and why? Most people being “canceled” never experience their destructive careers ending or ending promptly when caught red-handed. The individual may lose a few fans, but others can be immediately replaced by more curious viewers that seek attention or juicy information to gossip about. Currently, there is a big opiate crisis that is killing thousands of people, which brings me to my next topic.
Fifteen, homeless crisis and veterans. I once saw the perfect bumper sticker. Bernie Sanders said, “If you cannot afford to take care of the veterans, then don’t go to war.” Currently, we have a big homeless problem. It is estimated that 40,000 veterans in the United States are homeless. PTSD is a risk factor for homelessness. When someone serves in the military, they may be exposed to different types of traumas than other civilians. The war someone served in may also affect their risk of PTSD because of the kinds of trauma considered typical for veterans. Such common traumas are war zone deployment, training accidents, and military sexual trauma. When I researched this guided information, I was surprised. I thought our world was doing its best to end sexual harassment and sexual abuse, but I was wrong. “23 out of 100 women (or 23%) reported sexual assault when in the military. 55 out of 100 women (or 55%) and 38 out of 100 men (or 38%) have experienced sexual harassment when in the military”. This information comes from PTSD.VA.Gov.
Sixteen, the cost of living and raising a family. If we want to fix the cracks in our broken world, it starts with us speaking up and taking action steps. In the United States, the following living expenses have increased dramatically. The cost of living, food, gasoline, new cars, car payments, child care, healthcare expenses, medications, and other necessities. But have wages increased to meet these cost-increased demands? I have to say NO! I’m sharing my point here with you. In 1996, I was a single parent. I had a good-paying job and could afford a two-bedroom apartment and childcare expenses without help from the government. Rent was around $700, and childcare was $200-$300 a month. My job at the time was as an administrative assistant. My salary was around $25K, and the highest was $30K. With the cost of housing today and childcare, I would need more money to afford it. My best friend recently had a baby, and she is amazed at how I could afford childcare. Now people need help to afford a studio apartment in Portland, Oregon. The expense is between $1,200 to $1,800. I just Googled where I grew up in Marion County, California, and worked. I laughed out loud. The price for a studio apartment is between $2,600 and 2,800. Here is another example. When I moved from the Bay Area to Oregon in 2006, I rented a two-bedroom apartment and one bathroom for $1,000.00 in California. I could rent a newly built three-bedroom house, two-bath, two-car garage, and complete backyard for the same price in Oregon. Today something similar would cost someone $2,300 to $2,500 a month. Can you see the crisis the future generations are worried about? What concerns me the most is not all homeless people are old. 15.6% are aged 51 to 61. Ages 24 and over average 89.7%. That is why creating a community that has rent control and other resources based on various incomes is essential. And I am not talking about section eight housing. I am talking about support for families that do not make the cut for food stamps or reduced childcare. Currently, there is no middle ground, and that needs to change to support the future generations.
Seventeen, supporting local organic farmers and buying organic foods. I know some people hate this topic and will say that eating organic is too expensive. I can debunk this excuse or statement. The absolute truth is convivence has become the enemy. People would make coffee at home before heading out to work. You would make breakfast at home or eat it at work. Fast food has become extremely expensive. It is almost the same price as a sit-down restaurant meal. For example, a fast food meal with a soda can cost nearly as much as buying two-organic chicken breasts, organic potatoes, and a vegetable. If you were not cooking for two, you would also have leftovers for the next day. That is why I say convivence has become the enemy. When you do not buy organic, you support companies that coat your food with toxins and other harmful chemicals that can live in your body for years. If you cannot afford to buy organic, try to grow your own vegetable garden. Even if you have a front porch or deck, you can grow tomatoes, peas, strawberries, herbs, or a fruit tree in a pot. Communities can come together and dedicate a portion of a park to teach people how to grow and harvest organic fruits and vegetables. This is a skill young adults should be taught in school, but many still need to be taught.
Eighteen, be kind to everyone! This includes the narcissist and anyone struggling with mental health issues. Why? Well, someone has hurt them, or life has been hard for them. We should not be afraid of people that have mental health issues. Fact: “The vast majority of people with mental health problems are no more likely to be violent than anyone else. Most people with mental illness are not violent and only 3%–5% of violent acts can be attributed to individuals living with a serious mental illness.” I have spoken to several narcissistic people and why they love bomb, devalue, and discard people is because the same patterns they repeat are what was modeled to them by other human beings. They expect you to do it to them, so they will do it first to avoid being hurt, humiliated, or shamed. You can set healthy boundaries when you know who and what you are dealing with. You will be able to learn their behavior patterns, and you will know how to respond instead of reacting. You will be able to avoid psychological abuse or deduce the impact of damage by their actions, behaviors, and words. They do not have to be in your inner circle of friends, but someone to that you show kindness and mutual respect. You can love them but not like them. You might want to help them, but fixing them is not your job. They have to be willing to work on themselves. You are in a trauma-bonded relationship when you try to fix their problems. The best thing to do is set healthy boundaries and support their healing journey, but keep your distance. The relationship can seem superficial, but you accept them, not devaluing or discarding them.
I know this is a long blog post and podcast. Thank you for listening. I do hope this information and message for humanity and our future generations will result in positive changes for all living beings and life forms. Many blessings for the new year!